Of all the textbook definitions of "betrayal," I am hesitant to agree with any. There are, however key words that I can agree with in all the definitions I've read:
Expose, enemy, treachery, disloyalty, unfaithful, disappoint, reveal, violation, deceive, misguide, corrupt, seduce.
I love the word seduce, because it implies an innocent victim. Innocence. We don't want to think of ourselves as such and go the opposite way after we have been betrayed. And when we decline to accept it, that is why we are angry. Innocence.
I also love "seduce" because betrayal is something forseen by our betrayer although it might be only 5 minutes before they betray us, but they knew what was going to happen before we did. And that is painful to accept is it not? Therefore, I say we were seduced. They had the upper hand.
Said seducer/betrayer is no traitor, for they were never our ally to begin with. Again, the only definition I could agree with (that includes the word "seduce") is: "to seduce and desert." Because betrayal goes beyond a simple "hurt;" It is a destruction of the soul, but more importantly, a destruction of our faith and trust, which are two sacred things held by human kind. And in the end we are thrown back these sacred things and are left for dead. Deserted.
Regardless, I still believe betrayal has no true definition because it is that putrid that the mere knowledge of its true definition is capable of burning your mind if you think it, or your mouth if you say it. It is unspeakable. Just ask those of us who have been betrayed, and they will pause for a second and their face and hands will move as if the definition wants to come out, and they are going to speak, but it doesn't come out, and they don't speak. They don't define it, not because they can't but because their unconscious prohibits them from doing so.
Betrayal means "traición" in Spanish. And if you think about it, that word sounds horribly, terribly, and painfully powerful in any language. Not because how each language has conveyed the word into vowels and consonants, but because of the chord that the meaning strikes on human emotions.
Betrayal plants the seed of mistrust, which will never be uprooted, I don't care what you say. I have spoken.
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Reading beyond this point is an option, not obligatory. Yes, I said obligatory.
Word of advice (if you want it):
You carry other peoples nasty souls when you hold grudges. Hate is a natural process in all betrayals. However, after the fires burn out and the ashes cool your mind will slowly crawl back to the wisdom and philosophies you have no idea you have learned.
Forgiveness is the only way to forget. Can I emphasize, "only?"And forgetting is the only way you obtain mental peace. Peace is the ultimate goal. Be selfish about it. Not selfish about your actions, just selfish in recovery. And upon that you will understand what those ahead of you see and feel, and those behind you have yet to comprehend.
But don't be frustrated and angry they cannot see what you see in the future (note to someone). Its a process that they must go through. You cannot take a leap to your goal. No snake skips the incubation state to maturity. Walk slowly, no matter how many spikes you step on, how excruciating the hot coals are, or how pinching the thorns.
When you get there, you will be greeted by those on the other side of the wisdom-line and you will wait with them... for the rest.
And even when its all over, and you are at peace, and you firmly believe you've hated your enemies for the last time, I fear that a little residue will remain forever in your heart. Because the love you bestow in a relationship with another human being that has betrayed you, will scar you just a bit.
Last note:
Isn't it funny how despite the fact we have all been betrayed in some way, we (in some other) betrayed someone else. So how are we any better?
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